I Lurrve you :P

Let me write about the concept of love this time, then. The thing which prompts every writer to pen novel after novel on it,  here and then, scores of movies have been made over it. . our own Hindi film industry is ever living up to its legacy of puking out a dozen films on this theme, since it all started. Talking of now, the recently launched weekly episodes of Satyamev Jayate, an initiative by Aamir Khan to throw light on contemporary issues of concern to  people alike, had one episode dedicated to this very theme- Love. Yes, we're talking love in the romantic sense here.  Aamir Khan went on to state that he was initially apprehensive about giving one full episode of the total 13 to this, as he felt there were more pressing issues that he felt ought to be addressed, but eventually he gave in.

So what is it, about this thing? What is it about it that a producer who's been down in the dumps decided to make a comeback with a film on love? Sounds painfully funny, we all know. But that is how it is, here at least. And not to be overlooked, is the fact, it often works. Watching the movie 'I Hate Luv Storys' a few days back, I couldn't help but scorn at the way the movie ends. Imran Khan is there, making a mockery of love, of perfect happy endings, all of which the film industry has been celebrating over the decades. And in the ending, we see him bowing down before Sonam Kapoor with puppy dog eyes 'confessing' how he'd been a fool to question the sanctity, the power of love in the first place. What do I say to this? Roflmao, Lmao, Lol, LAME. What else were we even expecting, guys? :D   Also, this is not me denying that I love watching these very movies, some of them over and over again. But then, we also know that love and relationships ain't all that hunky dory as portrayed in the films. Still we love watching them. Why? Sigh. :P The same goes for novels, be it Elizabeth and Darcy's romance in Pride and Prejudice, or the 'raw' love in the Twilight series (guffaws), each new novel is like a whole new story, ain't it? What is even funnier, is that having decided to start writing again after a L.O.N.G. break, I thought of and settled on this very topic. 

                                          Moving aside, let's talk of how  love is in our lives; no vampires, no 'lovelorn guy eyes demure dame and love blossoms' scenario being discussed here. Enough on that there everywhere already. I being a twenty year old, more of a virtual blabber mouth who'll take eons to venture and speak a word in front of new faces, have very less to say on this, anyway. I'm not here to propound a theory on love either. What kind of 'love' have we even been witness to, till now? As far as I can recall, I remember the first nestlings of love in my mind [yeah I won't write heart here, because the heart cannot think, unless you can prove otherwise.] settling through when I was in Xth, maybe? Prior to that, my crushes were limited to movie stars and the like- owing to my zilch interaction with guys till then. In Xth, I joined tuitions for the first time, and I soon had a list of eye candies  who I wished would somehow ask me out, because, of course I did not interact with any one of them, ever. :P Move over to turning sixteen and a brief, disastrous relationship, I decided to wait and come across someone nice, because I could never be one of those girls who'd go around saying all guys are dogs/losers/cheaters and stuff, because of the obvious reasons that a) That's not true, and b) Which girl has dated ALL men on earth to be able to make such a statement? :P

“Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze. ”

― Elinor Glyn

        

                                      A twenty year old now, and another relationship older, I'm still not sure about what love is. Really, do any of us have a sudden moment of epiphany when it strikes us that we're in love? That it ain't mere infatuation? When does one finally figure out if the one you love is the one you can spend your life with? Can you never be wrong? There wouldn't be divorces, or love marriages going awry, ever, then. So, what is this love all about? Aamir Khan goes on to say that the basis for love is procreation. Is that plainly true? Cannot be refuted straightaway either. Do you ever like/love someone without feeling sexually attracted to them? Cut the self imposed sexual abstinence in your fantasies that you boast of, fine you may not have fantasized about being kissed [or doing more, turn up the scale :P] by the one you're mad about, but you do realise it is something that you're trying to impose, right? Leave that aside, you would end up in bed with your beloved, eventually- it's just a matter of time then. It's not as if you were never physically attracted to her/him prior to you two getting married. So, is that longing for the one you love, a part of love, or something else? Do you know of any couple that had a love marriage yet never consummated it? That would be surprising, right? Also, I don't understand how people term sexual union a spiritual union, at the same time expressing extreme derision for pre-marital sex. Okay, maybe I'm being more discursive than  specific here, but my point is just that love too, is manipulated by people to serve as grounds to support their arguments. Marriage is just a social ostentation of a relationship that's formally been granted religious sanction, we all know that.

   

                                                                                     For us people, it's still the happy phase, and will be, for the next few years, I presume? Mutual liking, being asked out, going on dates, falling for each other even more each day. . it's so predictable. Marriage changed things, you got responsibilities, but then again, it's about having kids, seeing them grow, have them married off too, and grow old cherishing the past and the present. What about a couple that does not want to have kids, because they feel that will leave them with lesser proximity, [not in the bed, people] but otherwise, with a dozen concerns about  the kids growing up, not leaving them with the time and ease with which they could just spend hours together? One can say that without kids life becomes stagnant and having kids makes your life beautiful [whatever that means, only experience can tell], so would you be hating such people? To what extent are they wrong? Is to be in love then, necessarily a cyclical process that's to follow? Not having kids at all after marriage willfully, is that abnormal, then? What about live-in relationships? One may ask, why problem could a head-over-heels in love couple have with getting hitched? One can also ask- why get married, in the first place? Do we really need a religious/social sanction? Bleh.

“When we meet someone and fall in love, we have a sense that the whole universe is on our side. And yet if something goes wrong, there is nothing left! How is it possible for the beauty that was there only minutes before to vanish so quickly? Life moves very fast. It rushes from heaven to hell in a matter of seconds.”

― Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes

What about this aspect of love? More on this so